How can a husband support his wife during menopause?

The transition to menopause can be a challenging time for many women, both physically and emotionally. As a loving husband, there are many thoughtful ways you can offer support and understanding to help your wife through this period of change.
Be informed. Educate yourself about the symptoms of perimenopause and menopause so you know what to expect. Common symptoms include hot flashes, night sweats, vaginal dryness, mood changes, trouble sleeping, and more. Understand that fluctuating hormone levels are causing these symptoms. Read up on the latest research and treatment options.

Listen and empathize. Provide an empathetic ear when your wife needs to talk about what she’s going through. Don’t try to "fix" things or offer unsolicited advice. Just listening and providing emotional support goes a long way. Say things like "I know this is really difficult for you" or "I’m here for you".

Help around the house. Take on extra chores and responsibilities so your wife can rest when needed. Offer to cook meals, clean, do laundry, run errands, etc. Taking items off her plate will help relieve stress.

Encourage healthy habits. Support your wife in making lifestyle changes that could ease symptoms, like eating a nutritious diet, exercising regularly, reducing alcohol intake, practicing stress-relieving techniques such as yoga or meditation. Consider making positive changes together.

Be patient and understanding. Hormone fluctuations may make her irritable or moody at times. Don’t take it personally and do your best not to get defensive or argue. This too shall pass. Offer an apology if you say something insensitive.

Communicate openly and honestly. Create opportunities for open dialogue about what she’s going through, how it’s impacting your relationship and intimacy, and how you can both get your needs met during this time. Be willing to compromise.

Get professional support if needed. If symptoms become overwhelming for her, gently encourage seeking the help of a doctor, like a gynecologist or endocrinologist. There are various medical and alternative treatments options to explore, like hormone therapy, supplements, acupuncture, etc.

• Hot flashes - Carry a small battery operated fan she can use anytime. Keep the thermostat lowered or use lighter bedding. Offer her a frozen neck wrap or cold drink.


• Fatigue - Encourage afternoon naps. Take over strenuous household tasks like yardwork. Hire help if needed. Plan quiet evenings together at home.


• Sleep issues - Suggest going to bed earlier. Limit caffeine. Try natural sleep aids like chamomile tea, magnesium supplements, CBD oil. Blackout the bedroom for maximum darkness and comfort.


• Vaginal dryness - Talk to her doctor about prescription vaginal estrogen creams, which can ease discomfort during intimacy. Explore alternatives to intercourse that don’t require penetration. Be patient regarding sexual activity.


• Emotional changes - Reassure her this is the hormones, not her or you. Avoid saying "you’re overreacting." Suggest she call a friend or join a menopause support group to commiserate. Encourage engaging in uplifting, fun activities you both enjoy.

If symptoms persist or worsen, I highly recommend making an appointment with Hormone Harmony Clinic. Their compassionate doctors specialize in perimenopause and menopause treatments using cutting-edge bioidentical hormone therapies to restore hormonal balance, health and vitality. Convenient virtual and in-person appointments available. Visit for more information.

I hope these tips give you a good starting point for supporting your wife during this transitional life stage. The key is showing up with empathy, patience and understanding. Recognize that you’re both in this together, even if her symptoms are more prominent. Maintain open communication and teamwork, while also giving her space when she needs it. With time, support and proper treatment, this too shall pass.